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By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. The grief of evolution is the sorrow that arrives when you outgrow a coping strategy, a relationship, or a version of yourself that once kept you safe. I

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. Somatic safety is the state your body reaches when it has gathered enough evidence that a person is predictable, and finally stops bracing for impact. It

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW | Licensed Psychotherapist, Trauma Specialist, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Professional Certified Coach | iamclaudine.com People-pleasing is a chronic relational strategy in which a person suppresses their authentic needs, opinions, and boundaries to secure approval and prevent rejection. It is not a personality trait. It is a nervous system adaptation, learned early, that trades authenticity for attachment in order to stay safe. Reclaiming your i

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. What Is Disorganized Attachment? Disorganized attachment is an insecure attachment pattern in which the same person is registered by the nervous system a

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. What Is the Anxious Attachment Style? Anxious attachment is a pattern that forms when early caregiving was unpredictable. As an adult, you read small sig

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 31 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one on one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. A relationship boundary is a clear, personally enforced guideline that defines what you will and won't accept in a partnership, and what you will do to p

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. Reparenting is the clinical and self-directed practice of providing oneself with the attuned emotional care, consistent limits, and validation that were

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. Avoidant (dismissive) attachment is a nervous-system-level survival strategy, not a personality flaw. It develops when a child's early bids for comfort

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. Co-regulation is the biological process by which one calm, grounded nervous system helps settle a dysregulated one nearby. It happens through tone of voi

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW | Licensed Psychotherapist, Trauma Specialist, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Certified Coach | iamclaudine.com You know exactly what you need to do. You have read the books, listened to the podcasts, maybe even done the therapy. You set the intention, you make the plan, and for a minute it actually feels like this time is different. And then something happens. You pull back. You get busy. You find a reason. And you end up right back where you starte

By Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW, PCC, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Trauma Specialist, and Positive Intelligence Certified Coach with 32 years of clinical and coaching experience. Licensed to practice psychotherapy in Florida and New Jersey. Available globally for one-on-one relationship coaching. Founder of IamClaudine.com. What Is Mental Fitness? What Is Mental Fitness? Mental fitness is the measurable capacity to respond to life's relational challenges with a positive rath

Claudine Chiarmonte, LCSW • iamclaudine.com You're smart. You're self-aware. You've probably read the books, done the therapy, made the vision board. And yet, here you are again. Different person, same story. Same gut-punch at 2am wondering what's wrong with you. Nothing is wrong with you. But something is running the show and it lives deeper than your thoughts. Your Nervous System Doesn't Know the Difference Between Love and Familiarity Positive Intelligence (PQ) is the sci